{"id":119,"date":"2009-10-09T12:11:26","date_gmt":"2009-10-09T19:11:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/srloomis.com\/blog\/2009\/10\/%e2%80%9cthe-story%e2%80%9d-part-1"},"modified":"2014-08-16T10:17:07","modified_gmt":"2014-08-16T17:17:07","slug":"%e2%80%9cthe-story%e2%80%9d-part-1","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/srloomis.com\/blog\/2009\/10\/%e2%80%9cthe-story%e2%80%9d-part-1","title":{"rendered":"\u00e2\u20ac\u0153The Story\u00e2\u20ac\u009d (Part 1)"},"content":{"rendered":"

First of all, a congratulations again to Ana Marie for winning our first ever Scavenger Hunt<\/a>. She wrote: “I would greatly enjoy reading the entire story of your courtship if time permits it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s composition.”<\/em> Lynn also asked a similar question.<\/p>\n

Well, It’s still very new to us that we even have<\/em> a story\u00e2\u20ac\u201d And, we hadn’t spent much time writing it to date. We’re busy preparing for the next chapter, so to speak!<\/p>\n

Here, then, is an overview. Actually, the summary is in the heading of this page: “He hath made every thing beautiful in His time. (Ecclesiastes 3:11)”<\/em>. This is a story of the providence of God and His blessing on two undeserving people.<\/p>\n

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How we met<\/strong><\/p>\n

Steven was born in Missouri (where Rebecca lives now), and Rebecca was born in California (where Steven lives now, in the San Jos\u00c3\u00a9 area). Despite many dear mutual friends, their paths did not cross until 2003. On the 11th of January of that year, at an NCWA Reenactment Ball in Monterey, CA, a friend of Steven’s and a friend of Rebecca’s met on the dance floor, and introduced those families. (Steven was present, but the Servens were not present.) A dance was set in the San Luis Obispo area so that these Reformed, Christian, Home-schooling families could encourage one another. Steven and some others from his church drove down to San Luis Obispo and hosted the dance, enjoying the local hospitality. And the Serven clan attended. That was the first that the Servens and any Loomises had met. Steven and Rebecca danced the last dance, the Virginia Reel.<\/p>\n

That spring, Rebecca and the Servens drove up to the San Jos\u00c3\u00a9 area to attend a dance at the Campbell Community Center, and the Serven family met more of the Loomis family.<\/p>\n

Friends over the years<\/strong><\/p>\n

Steven and Rebecca met again a few times in 2003 and 2004 mostly, at various conferences and events. Steven attended the second ever California Men’s Advance which Rebecca’s church sponsors, in 2004, and got to know Pastor Serven and some of the family and friends there. Rebecca and Steven met again at an (awww) Valentine’s day history lecture also in 2004. That summer, Rebecca attended the WCWC conference which Steven’s church sponsors, and stayed for a couple of days of fellowship afterwards with members of Steven’s church who, also in God’s providence, are neighbors living around the corner. (Rebecca visited her future home briefly on this trip.) Steven and Rebecca (as the ServenClan’s correspondant) kept up some cordial, friendly conversation via e-mail. And then\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6<\/p>\n

Goodbye? \u00e2\u20ac\u201d And a call to action<\/strong><\/p>\n

On Steven’s birthday, in 2005, the Servens sent out an e-mail (which was reflected in this blog post<\/a> on the following day). The Serven family was being called by God to move to Missouri. To quote from that post:<\/p>\n

\u00e2\u20ac\u0153This change has huge ramifications for our family and will make many ripples across the country. Some of you are rejoicing and some weeping\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 We are sorely going to miss the blessed relationships God has brought about with people in California as we have labored along side you for the kingdom. Even though the relationships will change as we leave our home state, we trust that God would grow these relationships in new ways. And it goes with out saying–our home is yours. We absolutely love to have company.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Steven was definitely in the ‘weeping’ category. Rebecca was moving away, and perhaps soon enough, would be married!<\/p>\n

Not His perfect time (\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6yet!)<\/strong><\/p>\n

A couple of months later, after much prayer, counsel, and consideration, Steven requested of Rebecca’s father if Steven could court her.<\/p>\n

This, also in God’s providence, was not granted. However, it was hoped that the friendship between our families would continue, and the invitation to visit as convenient was graciously extended.<\/p>\n

( As an aside, how do you<\/em> define a successful courtship? To answer this, one must first define what the goals are. If the goal is “Get married!!!”, then this attempted “courtship” of Rebecca was a failure. However, our goal should be (1) glorify God and (2) determine whether He is calling to marriage<\/em>. Therefore, this brief (2005) attempted courtship was immediately a success. It was not the right time\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 yet. )<\/p>\n

We had kept in touch over the years as friends, discussing ministry, family and web-site things, and this only continued over time – the first few of several thousand<\/em> e-mails.<\/p>\n

The next time that Rebecca and Steven saw each other was in September at the Chalcedon Foundation 40th Anniversary Conference at Chalcedon Presbyterian in Georgia. We were both grateful for our friendship and glad to catch-up on the move and such. Then, there was Jamestown in 2007. Steven considered (while visiting family in Missouri) attending the Men’s Advance in 2008, but that also did not work out, although some good conversation ensued around that time. And then..<\/p>\n

Rekindling a friendship<\/strong><\/p>\n

In 2008, in God’s providence, Rebecca and a friend<\/a> were able to come out to the WCWC<\/a>. Steven and Rebecca had a number of good and important conversations at the conference and in the couple days subsequent before she returned home. Could there be a possibility here? \u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 We resumed our e-mail conversation, and in fact, started writing on anything and everything at quite a pace, all with Rebecca’s parents’ knowledge and much good counsel on Steven’s side.<\/p>\n

Family involvement<\/strong><\/p>\n

At the end of August, 2008, the Servens took an extensive road trip to New Mexico and into southern and northern California. Steven was invited to an 80th birthday party<\/a> concert during one time of passing through (he is visible speaking with Nathan in the seventh photo). After the concert, Steven took Rebecca, Nathan, and Beth out for some Coldstone’s ice cream (which treat would make an appearance at Beth and Jon’s reception<\/a>), and conversation. A couple of days later, Mrs. Serven, Rebecca, Nathan and Beth, attended RHC<\/a> with Steven, which met in the same building in Campbell, California where Pastor Serven’s church met twenty years ago. This was Rebecca’s second visit to what would be her future church home, that year, and the second ever to her future home for a family brunch. Also at this time, Steven and his future father-in-law were seriously discussing the possibility of courtship and evaluating the progress of the friendship. A precious daughter is not let go easily, nor is marriage to be entered into hastily, and so much care and diligence was taken on both sides to determine if courtship, a serious consideration of marriage, was even wise.<\/p>\n

Next: December 2008 and<\/em> The first of many visits Eastward<\/strong><\/p>\n


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First of all, a congratulations again to Ana Marie for winning our first ever Scavenger Hunt<\/a>. She wrote: “I would greatly enjoy reading the entire story of your courtship if time permits it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s composition.”<\/i> \u00e2\u20ac\u00a6Here, then, is an overview.\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6“He hath made every thing beautiful in His time. (Ecclesiastes 3:11)”<\/i>. This is a story of the providence of God and His blessing on two undeserving people.<\/p>\n

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